, LEFT JOIN . CanDelete, , . COUNT , .
SELECT
Col1, Col2, Col3, ...,
CASE C.Existence WHEN 0 THEN 1 ELSE 0 END AS CanDelete
FROM
ParentTable P
LEFT JOIN
(
SELECT COUNT(*) AS Existence, FKColumn
FROM Childtable GROUP BY FKColumn
) C ON P.FKColumn = C.FKColumn
WHERE
P.Col = ...
SIGN(C.Existence) AS HasChildRows