I don’t think that there is something mysterious here, which I’m sure is not what you wanted to hear. Absolute digits of the "safe" amount of memory do not exist. Rule: when the OS tells you that you use too much, use less. At first it will discard background processes and is preferable to your foreground application, but there are still limitations.
In the "old days" you are lucky to get 20 MB. I'm sure you can safely get more than on the iPad, but apparently less than 50 MB.
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