After quite some research and games, I came to the conclusion that with Tomcat it is simply impossible to cope with a huge number of simultaneous connections with a reasonable amount of memory. (I would still be happy if I were wrong here)
However, there is a savior:
Netty: http://www.jboss.org/netty/downloads
Java IO, NIO Java . -- TCP- .
loadtest EC2 7 @ 1,5 ! (, tomcat, , , , , mem, 200 / " " - !) , Java VM 1,5 , , C10M .
Netty Java VM! .