NHibernate doesn't talk at all. As for scalability, there was already a question about NH groups , which was more related to the complexity of the database, and then the traffic, but might still be interesting for you.
Even if there is always a complaint about unnecessary requests for each ORM, due to the general nature of ORM, this does not mean that it is talkative. On the other hand, it optimizes situations where it would be too difficult to optimize handwritten DALs. For instance. query packages or lazy loading.
NHibernate is quite lightweight compared to other ORMs and powerful features compared to it.
NHibernate (like any other ORM) can be considered redundant if there is no object-oriented business model, but you need to optimize it for maximum performance. I do not think that Google could use NHibernate for its search engine, for example.
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NHibernate performance and power are not completely free. This requires developers to understand at least the basics of relational databases. Other ORMs try to hide all relational issues, which leads to much more non-optimized behavior.
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