With the new version of CUDA 5, there is an installation guide, there you have only one file that installs drivers, tools and sdk (even nvidia nsight). And another thing that caught my attention is that you also have optimus options during the installation process.
I also have Alienware M14x, and I understand your problem, but I also wanted the drivers to work for me, so I did not try too hard on this.
Perhaps you could give this attempt and comment on all of us.
Here you can find a candidate for the release of CUDA 5: CUDA 5
and here is the installation guide (maybe read this first): CUDA 5 Launch Launcher for Linux.
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